Some times loved ones would have us accept an unnatural guilt when we’re unwilling to prove our love by making personal sacrifice. I remember me telling my girlfriend you know what i feel like doing this...and i dont wanna do this and all the blahs involved. A compassionate person like her says "mann maar lo apna". I didnt think then but now i ask myself, "why?"
Why do we lose ourselves in focussing on others. We as individuals are so much more. Why are we accomodating? Why do we accomodate everyone we care for unconditionally? Do accomodate but draw boundaries. Draw boundaries but dont hurt em. Dont think into things dont read between lines. We need to respect us so that people respect us back. Many of us have been told to worship God, but few of us have been advised to worship our selves. I rarely claim that “this” or “that” is impossible, but I’m about to make an exception. It’s impossible to worship any god, or to truly love anyone, if you don’t first love and worship your self. You can’t give to others what you don’t possess yourself.
Everyone has a lil bit of selfishness, no one is completely selfless. Not even in satyug. Maryada Purshottam Ram asked his only wife to test herself.... for what?
A BLOGGER's EXCERPT
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The father insists, If you really loved me, you’d come into the family business.”
The husband pouts, “If you really loved me, you’d never look at another man.”
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If you believe that love implies sacrifice, then you’ll accept a bad feeling about your self whenever you refuse to do the bidding of a loved one. When you do something for someone out of guilt, rather than love, they know it at some level, and your so-called sacrifice doesn’t really help.
So a paradox is created where we feel we are sacrifing our happiness for others when in turn people feel that we are repaying a godforsaken debt. Making things less twisted, what is important is to be aware. We in pretending... forget our basic animal nature of self knowledge and preservation. Self preservation will teach us to give us the most respect. We deserve it, anyone who thinks less of us is not worth the effort.
True love is selfless; it is given to the loved one without wanting sacrifice in payment, or demanding sacrifice in order to prove the love is reciprocated. True love is given joyfully, with no expectations, no qualifications and no limitations. What will be selfless in this case...... where you compromise to see the other person smile. A smile which will give you more peace than watching the earth from the moon.
"The so-called self-sacrificing individual is a person who avoids confronting the challenges of his/her own life life by losing themselves in someone else’s. This is not selfless its being a person who runs away from his/her respnsibilities." Read this somewhere and trust me... its an absolute truth. No love asks for sacrifice which ruin your happiness. There is a difference between compromising and giving up with regards to make the other person happy. Its the easiest path. Stop blaming, stop!!! Take action, be your own man.
Random.
Truly.
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