The need to express is one of the basest of emotions. It is a tool which we use to let the other person know how we feel. Majority of the time when I am blabbering about the need of few friends; but such friends whom you can trust as you can trust your family, a key ingredient makes these friend as special as they are.
The key ingredient is telepathy, not in its supernatural sense but in a way wherein even if you dont express yourself explicitly your thoughts are still communicated to your friend.
This concept is portrayed in 'How I met your Mother' in comical overtones, but it has a very deep message embedded in it. Not trying to sound preachy but it is a key ingredient which defines friendship.
For example, one of my friend is craving to go back home, one is preparing for an onslaught of exams, one is emotional coping up with a break up, one is stressed beyond belief cause of work and so on. So all these ladies and gentleman would want to treat a person as their friend who can understand the turmoils and the vagaries of life they are facing right now.No one wants to accept that they are weak but a friend's job is to make them feel comfortable, to understand their needs without them being vocal about it. To understand ,to try and reason with them and most importantly to protect them.
A very important job is to protect the people you love(not physically). The fact that they know that they can count on you means a whole world to the strongest and the toughest of people.
The most amazing way to piss off your close friend is to interrupt their verbal rant by saying "I know, how you feel", if you knew you would never say that. When someone takes the time and courage when someone moves beyond their inhibitions to share their turmoils with you then they need an empathetic listener.
I have heard people bitching about their other friends stating that "when I tell that person my problems then he/she starts with their own". If thats the case then dear friend (directed at the one with counter rants) you are not a friend at all. When you can hear a rant and reply back with a counter rant and it causes no issues trust me you would never want to let go off that friend.
We all are busy, some maybe more some maybe less but for those who have touched your life in any special way, who has made you feel special even for the minutest millisecond make sure that you are always available for them. Forgetting those who cared for you are signs of a weak and a supercilious person.
Dont wait.... call that special friend :)
The key ingredient is telepathy, not in its supernatural sense but in a way wherein even if you dont express yourself explicitly your thoughts are still communicated to your friend.
This concept is portrayed in 'How I met your Mother' in comical overtones, but it has a very deep message embedded in it. Not trying to sound preachy but it is a key ingredient which defines friendship.
For example, one of my friend is craving to go back home, one is preparing for an onslaught of exams, one is emotional coping up with a break up, one is stressed beyond belief cause of work and so on. So all these ladies and gentleman would want to treat a person as their friend who can understand the turmoils and the vagaries of life they are facing right now.No one wants to accept that they are weak but a friend's job is to make them feel comfortable, to understand their needs without them being vocal about it. To understand ,to try and reason with them and most importantly to protect them.
A very important job is to protect the people you love(not physically). The fact that they know that they can count on you means a whole world to the strongest and the toughest of people.
The most amazing way to piss off your close friend is to interrupt their verbal rant by saying "I know, how you feel", if you knew you would never say that. When someone takes the time and courage when someone moves beyond their inhibitions to share their turmoils with you then they need an empathetic listener.
I have heard people bitching about their other friends stating that "when I tell that person my problems then he/she starts with their own". If thats the case then dear friend (directed at the one with counter rants) you are not a friend at all. When you can hear a rant and reply back with a counter rant and it causes no issues trust me you would never want to let go off that friend.
We all are busy, some maybe more some maybe less but for those who have touched your life in any special way, who has made you feel special even for the minutest millisecond make sure that you are always available for them. Forgetting those who cared for you are signs of a weak and a supercilious person.
Dont wait.... call that special friend :)
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