WHY DO WE CHOOSE TO DO WHAT WE CHOOSE TO DO? WHAT MAKES US FORM OUR JUDGMENET AND TAKE THE DECISIONS WE TAKE? I always ponder about the life choices I have made and I have learnt one thing that every decision you make it’s the best decision you make no matter how bad or good it is. The key to a guilt free life is by not to judge yourself by the choices you make.
Some choices which we make might work out in our favor and some might not but that does not define us, you or me. We are much more and it is not always necessary to come through with people. One’s life choices are one’s own and no one can bend or mend them.
A lot of things inspire me but does that mean I act upon all of those things? No it does not, it is not possible to dedicate your life to everything which pleases you. Sometimes making tough choices is what is required and you need to be a bigger man to sacrifice what you want for the greater good.
People will always judge, it is in our blood, it is something which comes engrained in us, no matter how nice a person is there will always be a judgment call. Then how do we choose to avoid it? How do we choose to be the best and bring out the best in us? The secret to that is never try to appease anyone, if you stand for your choices and what is right for you, yes you might hurt people, you might face the wrath of those who care and those who do not but in the end the best decisions are those in which both mind and heart are in agreement.
For example falling in love, in western countries there are no judgment calls on who dates whom, who loves whom, who sleeps with whom but in our society there is always a moral obligation to appease people. It leads us to losing on a lot of things we hold precious but we still do that, we still give up on things which we felt were precious.
But is that the right thing to do? Is not hurting others the right thing? Is not hurting others and hurting yourself means you are selfless? I feel lying to yourself is the biggest crime one can commit, it is a sin to be self sacrificing as in this world each and everyone fends for themselves. There is no pity, harmony and hatred which rules us. Instead we have started living our lives with pure compromises. What I mean by a pure compromise is a situation where we make ourselves believe that our sacrifice is what was needed to make things right. But is it?
Everything happens for a reason, people say. But the truth is people who would strangle their needs and their wants will do that without being concerned with the society, the age or time. Nothing will matter if you have believed for a fact that self sacrifice is the only path to achieve the greater good.
Everybody has the right to be happy. Happiness and sorrow do not have a shelf life. I have heard many a times that it is our sorrow which makes our joy worthwhile, I partially agree to it but what about those people who give up their joy to see a smile on someone else’s face? Spreading joy is only possible when the person spreading it is happy, you being unhappy to see others smile is just not worth it.
There are people who are very random and impromptu, their life choices are a series of accidents. Their choices hurt them and make them happy but they regret the decisions they make. To such people, I can relate to. But the question is can we be rational about everything in life? If we are always rational then what we live is not a life but we lead each day till the time we die. It is very important to know who you are and what you are as there is a good and a bad person inside everyone. There is an angel and the devil in everyone, there is a self sacrificing element and the selfish in everyone. Do not judge yourself as it makes our lives harsh. Instead live……… and live more to regret another day.
